One of the most magical experiences we can experience in life is falling in love. I remember when I did – and I’m blessed enough to say it’s happened to me twice and that I was able to easily identify it as love and nothing else like infatuation or obsession. It’s when those butterflies in the stomach and blushy nervousness all make the days of courtship romantic and special. Suddenly we feel completely glued to our partner and it seems that you can’t live apart for even one minute. These emotional bonds of passion, affection, and attachment become the center of our being. I’ve been lucy enough to experience this with my wife and life partner of eleven years. The relationship of love has different dimensions to it as it comes in many forms, and sometimes it just can’t be put in a box.
We all experience setbacks in love, they are a normal part of life. This we are all too familiar with…. and of course we also know there are times when it feels like a gentle breeze that could flip up your skirt if you’re not careful – playful and inspiring giggles. Other times, it can be so forceful that you feel flattened, unable to breathe or believe you will recover as the same person. I too have been flattened before….somehow it seems that when I take 3 steps forward getting closer and closer to my dreams, all of a sudden the hand comes slamming down only to leave me shocked and spilled all over the floor okay it’s not that dramatic but you get the point. All in all of these experiences, I have come to know that love can't be thought about, cultivated or practiced. The practice of love, if it is still within the field of the mind, therefore it is not love. I've grown keen to the writings of Jiddu Krishnamurti who said " when you love, there is neither one nor many; there is only love. It is only where there is love that all our problems can be solved and then we shall know it's bliss and happiness". I guess we've all become enslaved by our desires of freedom to love and be..... just be! But in the meantime, I will find solace in knowing that emotions of love needs recognition but can't be forced.
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